Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts

Friday, 29 November 2013

beejakshara mantra Cope and Reason for Hope

Picasso (artist),Mark Vonnegut (son of the writer Kurt Vonnegut), John Nash (mathematician, winner of the Nobel Prize in economics and subject of the book and movie A Beautiful Mind) Syd Barrett (founder of Pink Floyd),Buddy Bolden (jazz pioneer),Eduard Einstein (son of Albert Einstein) are a few famous people who had Schizophrenia and yet were successful.
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It was about a sometime back when a young man of 20-25 years old was lying in the street in front of our house. My father had come back from the vegetable market, when he saw the man. He immediately went to the young man who was trying to say something but could not express, he started telling about some strange stories. Some people standing around said that the young man was a mad & had problems in his head. He was crying as he hadn’t eaten anything, I suppose since morning/days. My mother made some paranthas and my father kept it in front of him, it was sad sight that he could not even properly hold it. Seeing this my mother was in tears and so was my father and then my father himself fed the young man thinking he was also someone's sick child. The young man ate then slept in the street, next morning he was nowhere to be found. It was days/weeks later my parents got to know, that the young man was practically disowned by his family members as he was diagnosed with mental illness some few years ago, they took care but later could not cope with him and was left on his own. Left to fight on his own with his mental illness of which he had no idea known to us as Schizophrenia.

Syd Barrett
Schizophrenia one out of the numerous mental illnesses. It originates from the Greek word-- Schizien "to split" and Phren " the mind" thus -splitting of the mind. It is a psychiatric diagnosis that describes mental disorder with respect to impairments in perceptions, delusions etc. Eugen Bleuler in 1908 first coined the term Schizophrenia.
A few symptoms are: - Hallucinations, Disintegrated & disorganized thinking, delusions, inapproriate reactions, psychosis etc.
The symptoms in children and adults are different. In the recent years it has been observed that it’s mostly occurs at about 18-25 years. Sad but true it cannot be cured, family members & loved ones are the people who can help one cope up with the illness. The ability to care for a schizophrenic is associated with emotional strength & determination, financial reserves & above all time.

Thus Family & loved ones are the BIGGEST HELP!!! It has been found out that family support is a biggest factor in improving from the situation.


Schizophrenia Support Group 
  1. Family should not shun responsibility of the person, not to feel ashamed that someone in the family has it.
  2. Acceptance is very important. Cursing your fate, feeling guilty, blaming one another never helps. Mourn, forgive and move on. To act out of resentment & drama between family members makes it worse for the person being treated also.
  3. It is a MEDICAL ILLNESS and requires treatment with responsibility.
  4. It is NO ONE's FAULT, essential that the person is diagnosed & treated well.
  5. A caring, safe environment that allows for as much freedom of action is very much required; Hostility & criticism in the environment at home should be reduced or eliminated.
  6. Important that the person takes prescribed medication as per the doses and family members need to ensure that it strictly followed else it leads to severe relapse.
  7. In extreme cases side effects to person happens thus important to inform the doctor at very onset.
  8. Educate oneself with the pattern of the schizophrenic person. Relapses are frequent, some patience is required--emotional straining does no good.
  9. Individual psychotherapy is essential for the person.
  10. Essential to make a daily routine at least an attempt is required. If possible help them work and find a job. Yes-- A Job!!
  11. Compliment the person on achieving goals; remember criticism does a lot of harm.
  12. Set attainable goals for them.
  13. Realize that caring for the person is emotionally, mentally, physically tiring & exhausting. Important to take care of yourself too.
  14. Often spouses, children or parents get drained to a very large extend in the caring process -- after effects show later.
  15. Important to have regular meetings with the doctor, and keep note of the behavioral pattern in the person & discuss on every meeting.
  16. Talk to the person frequently; listen to them esp. when they are in trouble.
  17. Sometime Schizophrenics get into Substance abuse like marijuana, or other drugs under no state and the person should get into that situation before or after diagnosis.
  18. Boost up the moral confidence of the person, they can lead normal, independent & satisfying lives too just like any of us.
So this in the end, the single most important thing: Is to love, care, appreciate and help the patient move ahead and live an Independent life like an independent individual. Thank you for reading this article and if you ever come across a person with Schizophrenia try and help them in some way. Worse thing to do is to leave the person dieing on the road and let them cope with illness by themselves.

So Always Take care & cope with a reason called as HOPE.

Thursday, 14 November 2013

beejakshara mantra Self- Healing and Child Abuse

One day at my apartment I was talking to a group of 5-6  girls ( aged 27-31yrs) when the topic of abuse came forth. It turns out each and every one was abused sexually as a child to a lesser or greater extend. Most managed to escape from the predator but the scars which some had were to haunt/upset them for the rest of their lives.

Most of the people abused as children would have never uttered a word to their friends/parents about the pain and would'v led their adult lives normally. It is sad to know that most people still subconsciously live with it and for some it keeps affecting them in some way or the other i.e feelings of rejection, abandonment, rigid, relationship issues, trust issues, fear,guilt, unresolved anger  etc. It is pain and hurt which is known only to the one who has been through it.

I know that it takes great guts, courage, time, patience to come forth and talk openly about a childhood abuse to anyone especially if the feeling of guilt, fear, injustice or non -acceptance from society are still deep rooted within.
With personal experience one must learn and understand that sometimes apart from oneself no-one else can help  ---" You are your own healer "

Reiki and Spiritual healing is one such mode of helping yourself or others in overcoming Child Abuse.

Reiki Self- Healing -

  • Give the intention to the Universe to heal your past wounds and liven inner child. 
  • If you like Invite archangel raphael or any god or angel with healing touch to support you.
  • While healing the heart chakra- imagine a pink soft ball bouncing and then slowly merging within your front heart chakra. Similar for back heart chakra. 
  • Use the distance and emotional healing symbols frequently on heart chakra and say let go and imagine green light surrounding your heart chakra.
  • While healing the hara chakra imagine orange waves cleansing the chakra.
  •  For the root chakra specifically use the physical and grounding symbols
  • Back root & hara chakra to be healed for longer durations.
  • Towards the end of self-healing do white light healing and green light protection especially around the heart chakra.  

Others Ways to Heal self- 

  • Forgive yourself & forgive the abuser. Write your feelings on a piece of paper about the incident then and now ( it can be ugly, sad, angry feeling) and close it by writing " I forgive you" and burn the paper. Do it as many number of times required.
  • Sit in a meditative position, take deep breaths until you feel relaxed. Let your mind wander about the abuse incident till the point you think it is baseless and no-longer a part of your identity.
  • Sit in a meditation position alone in a quiet place, take deep breaths and be relaxed. Start talking out your feelings aloud as if you telling the abuser how you felt and how is it hurting you till date.
  • Remember you re not alone, try talking to people who have been through similar experiences and encourage self and others to move ahead.
  • Keep a feelings chart- you might be surprised to see that some events or incidents trigger similar feelings, so work on with yourself or psychologist to how to improve.
  • Never ever blame yourself 
Heart Chakra Healing by Green Color & Visuals
Affirmations - for self healing
  • Heart chakra- " I willingly release all fears , concerns, past hurts and worries about giving and receiving love.
  • Heart Chakra- " I am an expression of true love and forgiveness- I forgive my "abuser"
  • Root Chakra- " I am safe and secure at all times. I am protected and well guided and accepted by self and all"
  • " I declare myself free from all past wounds" 

Hope it helps.



Wednesday, 13 November 2013

beejakshara mantra Reiki and Relationships

Condition or fact of being related, connected or associated with another or self is  " Relationship". One can form relationships with another human, animals, plants, objects, god, passion, thought or self , which basically mean we all thrive for connect in some way or the other.

During the normal course of our lives relationship balance is what we want/desire/need. Reiki - any level is highly effective and help to resolve physical and emotional issues in relationships. It helps to reduce stress, anxiety, animosity, Bitterness in relationsips, self love etc and help to overall seek help with love and relationships. As a reiki practitioner I would encourage people to learn reiki and other modalities to improvise relationships.

Regarding relationships ( in my view) following are the points which can help :-

1) Let- Go- Reiki healing helps to let go of the element of too much of attachment- It sets one free. It helps us to take away clingy and neediness and helps to be more full and giving. The which one feels is cleared and one feels full.

2) True Purpose- Reiki healing helps one to identify one's own needs, gain clarity on the need of the relationship. It helps one to assess & desired changes required to happy and be in line with one's purpose.

3) Positive affirmations- Sometimes we say we want positivity and happiness.. but the question remains are we really working in overcoming the challenges and issues... reiki helps us to align with what we really want , develop a positive outlook towards the self, other and work towards compassion.

4) Giggles- I have seen that reiki lightens one up even towards serious issues in relationships. It helps one view things from a third person's perspective and be a spectator also. This helps to give room or desired space... Ofcourse a good laugh helps to resolve most of the emotional issues.

5)  Give and receive-- I was once told- " sometimes we receive love from unexpected quarters", how so true. Giving and receiving and like inhaling and exhaling, paving way for balance. In relationships sometimes one partner starts giving more than the other it leads to a vaccum as one is giving-- sometimes conditionally and creates a void.. Hence leading to depressions, hurt. Reiki helps indiviuals to balance the give and receive patterns, if at all an imbalance it enhances self- love.

6) In Present & with self- Usually in relationships people tend to live in the future or what next scenario or some times become or project who they neccessarily might not be.Reiki helps one to focus and enjoy the present, one tends to accept one self and the other. Always remember if u are happy you will attract happy and healthy relationships.

7) Balance- Reiki Healing helps to strike a balance in physical, emotional and psyhcological levels within. It inturn helps to build strong foundations of a healthy relationships.

Suggested Associated Chakras for relationship healing are-
1) front and back heart chakra ( especially for promoting self love),
2) Root chakra front and back- any security related issues
3) Knees- for flexibility
4) Hara chakra
5) Back Throat chakra for expression

Sometimes we need to remember in relationships--

 Love and Heal


" We all stumble, everyone of us, thats why its comfort to go hand in hand "

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